by Preston Smiles
The underground railroad was famous for freeing many slaves, and Harriet Tubman said she would’ve freed many more if they only knew they were slaves. “IF” they only knew; wow, so powerful. We can’t heal what we can’t see, and for me this was a huge lesson that I am in the process of learning. Aristole said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” If we are what we repeatedly do….what exactly, then, are we doing?
So many of us don’t notice the perpetual habits we have that bind us to a slow, stagnate death.
So what exactly are these unconscious habits? I had to ask myself and i challenge you to ask yourself “What am i a slave to?” Because whatever it is that binds you, actually holds the key to your true freedom. Is it Facebook, twitter, instragram, snap-chat, HIM/HER (BIG ONE), politics, being worthy, porn, fear of failure, or fear of succeeding? Whatever it is, I promise you that if you unleash the invisible chains, on the other side is pure magic, on the other side is the REAL YOU.
I was in a “relationship” 2 years ago with someone who’s last words to me were “I’m in love with you but I’m getting back with my ex boyfriend.” A tough pill to swallow. And for a whole year I obsessed about how she was really my wife; that the universe got it wrong and eventually we would end up back together. I couldn’t see that I was flipping the universe off, I couldn’t see that I was a a slave to the idea of us together…of US being IT. And the more she stayed away the more it drove me crazy. I WAS A SLAVE.
The beautiful part is I had just enough sense and spiritual fortitude to know that there had to be more. So for a year I just laughed and noticed the stories running through my head, all the while knowing that my queen, would come when I was ready to be free of the old idea of what and who “she” was. So I chose new habits like not stalking her instragram, twitter and Facebook; like giving myself permmission not to know what she was up to.
And just like a bodybuilder builds muscle, I started loving myself at levels I could’ve never imagined. I started viewing the break up as a gift. And then one day I got a message from a Queen that said, “hey I’m in london and a friend of a friend says I’m the female version of you.” I noticed her, but I was also so secure with who I was that I trusted we would meet if it was meant for us to meet.
Three weeks later, I went on a first date with a woman I knew energetically wasn’t for me. Instincts kicked in and my gut told me I had to go. We went to a small poetry show, and of course two seats away from me was the Queen from the London message Alexi, in the flesh. It was immediate magic. Since that day we’ve enjoyed sharing our wholeness with each other. She is more than I could’ve ever imagined in a partner, as my boys and I like to say, she’s a “game changer.” In my opinion and this is just opinion, there is an intelligence that can orchestrate happenings, circumstances and events that we could never do on our own, and this intelligence has stuff in-store for us that is far beyond our mortal minds but it is awaiting our alignment with our true selves.
I share all this to say that when we partake in habits that our out of alignement with our true selves and desires, we will keep getting what doesn’t work for us. But when we are aligned with our desires and true worth the universe is able to make a way out of no way.
Many of us have huge dreams, but they can’t happen if we’re spending our time with people, places and things that are enslaving us. Your dreams await your alignment. (Tweet-worthy!) You’re a magical snowflake that will never be repeated, so stand in your uniqueness and claim all that is yours by birthright.
Preston Smiles #lovesVoice #thelovemob
Preston Smiles is a motivational messenger, founder of the Love Mob (organized acts of Love) and a multimedia inspirational content creator. Connect with him via his website, Facebook and Twitter.